I'm going to go ahead and say it that way it is real. I realized that I spend quite a bit of time in front of a computer screen. A few years ago, Don and I purged ourselves from our TV watching. What started out as giving up TV one day a week turned into us watching TV one day of the week.
More recently, when he finished "my room," (I promise, I will give a full tour when I finally move in) I moved my computer from my corner spot to my new desk. Surprisingly, I have found myself less inclined to go to my room because I would rather be on the floor playing with my girls.
This weekend I'm doing another Sprint Triathlon. I'll feel all the pre-race jitters, and be calmed in knowing my sister and husband will be enduring each physically taxing activity with me. I'll know that same feeling they've felt for years. I'm lucky too because my parents will be coming to town to watch the girls and to also cheer us on. This is the first event of this sort that both of my folks will be able to cheer for us. Truth be told, it makes me a helluva lot more nervous, but makes it all that much more exciting!
In some of the evenings during the week, we've been running around the neighborhood or dining at home with friends. I treasure these moments. Because your friends, your true friends (and family, too), understand that life with with little ones requires you to hit the pause button and they don't mind if you have to reschedule an infinite amount of times. You are ever so much more grateful that they keep inviting you to come out and in those fleeting moments when reading the email invitation, you are reminded that you were once a young cool chick, who drank wine and cocktails at spontaneous happy hours (instead of Sonic Happy Hour drinks that you may or may not spike at home), you picked your outfits because they were hot and chic (not because they were easiest to nurse in or the most comfortable to squeeze in a nap), and many parts of your appearance were composed (you didn't show up to work with one brown and one navy shoe and thought, oh, I didn't even realize I had heels so similar). When after such a long hiatus of seeing one another in real life, they don't roll their eyes when you go on and on talking about how amazing your children are, even if they don't have any of their own. Their genuine interest in your life and your kids is a blessing, some of the most special parts of friendship. Likewise, you are especially eager to hear of their own adventures! If you don't have kids of your own, and you go above and beyond your friends who do have kids...ESPECIALLY going to their home for a visit of just a bottle of wine or coffee...well, cheers to you because you are THE BEST kind of friend. Your presence is a tremendous present!
I don't lament those days past. I'm glad I was fortunate enough to go and have a whole slew of adventures before entering this phase of life. I do lament some friendships that have gone by the wayside. It's ok. It makes me appreciate all that I do have and those special folks to understand that.
Because of that, I disconnect from the world. I'm glad I've elected to move my computer to another location. When I get home, I don't spend as much time "connected" to the world. I check things on my phone, but otherwise, don't engage. I do more talking to my husband. More reading to M, more snuggling with T. I video chat on the phone with Brother and my parents (thank you Tango!). I'm forcing myself to go to sleep earlier. So far, I've moved my bedtime up a half hour. I need to be every bit as present in those awake hours than not. Too quickly, this...
turns into this...
in the blink of an eye. (*tear*) I just don't want to miss it.
I came across a blog today that talked about planning for a more minimal Christmas. The ideas he presented were wonderful. A few years ago, when I talked with my parents about our gifts, I asked them to put money towards a large family adventure where we can make memories. This year, we will do just that and I can't tell you how excited I am! Vibrating with excitement!
How about you, what do you do to bend time so you can get the most out of your time with your loved ones?